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Awareness vs. Thought: What “You Are Not Your Thoughts” Actually Means

“You are not your thoughts” is easy to say and hard to feel. Here is a way to test it rather than believe it.

By Mark Powers · October 2026

Thinking is something that happens in awareness

Thoughts come and go: a plan, a memory, a judgment. Something is present when each one arrives and when it leaves. That something is awareness. You do not have to adopt a belief about it. You can check it right now.

Psychologists describe a related skill as self-distancing: stepping back and viewing an experience as an observer rather than from inside it. Research links it with lower emotional reactivity and less rumination (Kross & Ayduk, 2017). Contemplative traditions have pointed to this observer for much longer, and the Awareness movement of REAL Shift is a direct way of turning toward it.

A thirty-second experiment

  1. Notice a thought. Any one. “I should reply to that email.”
  2. Ask: “Who or what is aware of this thought?” Do not answer in words. Just look.
  3. Notice that the thought has a beginning and an end, and that what noticed it did not begin or end with it.
  4. Rest there for a breath before you go on.

What this does and does not mean

It does not mean thoughts are bad, or that you should stop planning, feeling, or caring. It means you have a place to stand that is not inside every passing thought. Experienced meditators have been found to show different activity and connectivity in brain regions linked to self-referential thinking (Brewer et al., 2011). That is an association, not a proof, and the experiment above is something only you can run.

REAL Shift is a contemplative practice and an educational method, not a medical or psychological treatment. If you are struggling, please reach out to a qualified professional. In the U.S. you can call or text 988 at any hour.

References

  1. Kross, E., & Ayduk, O. (2017). Self-distancing: Theory, research, and current directions. Advances in Experimental Social Psychology, 55, 81–136.
  2. Brewer, J. A., et al. (2011). Meditation experience is associated with differences in default mode network activity and connectivity. Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, 108(50), 20254–20259.

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